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6 Reasons Why Men Cheat

Started by ybpguide · 9 months ago

I heard about this article on the radio yesterday and how women just had to check out the list (because, you know, if a man cheats it must be something we are doing wrong.) The info comes from Steve Santagati author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date and Mate [. ... Continue reading »

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  • This list makes a lot of sense to me ... not saying it's right, but it is what it is. The author wasn't trying to say that cheating is right ... just why it may happen
  • I will leave the comments to the younger guys!!!
  • The bottom line is once you've made a choice to commit to someone, other urges and needs have to be kept in check ... as a practical matter. A thoughtful couple will consider these reasons or look into ways to avoid the pratfalls of broken relationships before them. But we should recognize nature is nature. It's not my fault I'm inclined to be curious about sex outside outside of my relationship. Or to see a younger model and want to test drive. What is my fault is if I subject someone else to the selfishness and dishonesty involved with acting on those urges. We don't have to deny that they ARE natural and exist. It's just that once you've made the commitment, they aren't valid excuses to stray. I, or the man in question, has decided to place a higher value on the relationship and the vow.
  • I'm not sure that cheating is the biggest problem as much as people's disbelief that a relationship has to automatically end just because cheating took place. It IS possible to get past that - not easy - but possible. People "cheat" on their mates all the time - with ther jobs, their finances, platonic relationships, families, extra curriculars, etc.
  • Hi,

    I found this article really interesting, so I posted an article commenting on this piece on my site.

    Link: http://www.notyourmamasreligion.com/articles_vi...

    Feel free to comment here or there. Healthy discussion is always good :)
  • I think alot of men don't know what they are feeling, or why, or how they are motivated. And if the guy starts to open up we are all over him, and most men aren't up to the same speed as their wife when it comes to emotions and communication.

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