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Are you Successful?

Started by ybpguide · 9 months ago

I remember watching an episode of Oprah a few years back and one of her audience members said:
“Success is worthless if I can’t live the life I want to live”

I have often thought about what she said and have kind of refashioned the idea for myself. Succes ... Continue reading »

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  • That's some good stuff right there. I'm on my way to living my life the way I want.

    Last day of this God-forsaken job is Wednesday! Can't wait...
  • That was great GB. Thanks.
  • I think that I am successful in a way because I got into grad school and have my first two degrees. I have a future. But at present I don't feel successful. maybe I have things that academics, professors, and students think are important but those things don't indicate success to me. I am not living the life I want to live. I don't have a marriage, kids, a house, or even a car. I can't even have a cat because I have to live by the landlord's rules. I have an enormous amount of debt so I can't even buy a car or a condo. I don't have the personal relationships I want. For a while I didn't have the time or money to be healthy.

    But now that I have some more money I am less stressed. I can take more time to exercise, relax, and buy healthy foods. I will have more time to stay in contact with my friends and to enjoy myself. Those things are important for a happy life and they are more important to me than my success as a student.
  • When are some lawyers and other professionals going to realize that it really isn't twice the pay when you factor in everything you have to give up for that salary?
  • Wow! This is something that I may want to re-read each week. I've been struggling with the desire to go to law school AND the need to actually have a life. Its articles like this that help make life a little easier to figure out.
  • Your point is very well taken and presented. It's sad that many people don't realize that until it's to late. I'm currently in a position now that pays me far less that most people would put up with with the credentials that I have and the educational level I possess. However, I'm content because I've raised my kids to adulthood and i enjoy what I do and don't need a large amount of money to be happy. It's all about being content and happy------I see people everyday in the "rat-race" to be seen and to impress others based on thier income and are some of the LONELIEST people I have ever seen----but they make the big bucks and have the esteem position somewhere.
  • When I do graduate I'm not going to be one of those academics or professionals who need to publish all the time, do countless presentations and talks, and be involved in everything. I want to have a life because I think I gave up so much of it for school. I want my professional life to be low stress instead of trying to keep up with the Joneses.
  • I loved this definition. Yes, I guess I am. That was beautiful GIB. Always.
  • Very interesting. I'm 25 and have done most of the things I planned to do. Got a degree, running an IT business, got a car & paying off for a house. Still I don't feel successful. I spend most of my time taking care of the house and the business and haven't caught up with old friends for a very long time. I'm not always happy and my health has been neglected.

    I wonder what other 25 years old are doing with their lives. I know a friend of mine who I think is truly successful, she's earning about 80k a year, got almost everything I have yet always have the time to enjoy her weekends and catch up with friends.

    For me, I still aim to grow my biz and buy our 2nd house. I'm not married, no kids and I think of these as obstacles to my goals. Call me superficial, articial and not living for the moments, but I rather be rich & successful then one day then realise "Crap I haven't been catching up with friends" THAN just tagging along in life then grow old with regrets that I haven't accomplished all I could have.

    At the moment I think I can improve my life, be even more successful if I do try to make some time to exercise and catch up with friends once in awhile.

    I think there isn't a right way to live. It's whatever you're happy with. Whatever you've been planning, stick to it and make it happen. THAT's success.

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