We're just a desensitized society. Nothing affects us and nothing is off limits anymore.
Denene Brox
· 1 year ago
It seems to me that the word is okay when a woman calls another woman a bitch. But when a man uses the word, he has to be referring to another man who he thinks is a punk. A man doesn't get away with calling a woman a bitch though. I equate bitch with the N-word. It's okay between black folks, but no one else has permission to use it. So a man can't use it against a woman, but a woman can use it against another woman. Or women also use it in a jokey way, which is also found a lot on TV and in movies. I personally don't call my friend's bitches...it's just not classy.
mizrepresent
· 1 year ago
Growing up, calling someone a bitch gave cause to throwdown. It was a fighting word, toe-to-toe with saying "Yo Mama". Nothing friendly or funny about it, it's meant to demean, to chastise, to inflate and infuriate. Some may say, 'you my nigga' and give dap, but not many will welcome, 'you my bitch!"
Stephon
· 1 year ago
Totally agree ETS. A few weeks ago, I attended a bible study on "reverence" of God, His name and His Word. Without going into detail (it was a 5 hour study across 5 weeks), the opening of the study shocked me: Essentially, we are insensitive to the words spoken by others. As a Christian, up until that Bible study, If someone threw out any curse, even the obvious blaspheme, I didn't really sweat it. I was very complacent about what I let myself hear. That isn’t to say I’m going around telling everyone to stop cursing around me, but I take more notice of what is said, and I also take notice of the language used in the programs I watch. And like Kimberly, I stopped watching the shows that are just verbally abusive. But it seems it takes some of us a jarring or revealing experience(for Kimberly, the shows she speaks of above, for me, a bible study) to really take notice.
Here’s an interesting question: What about shows that use “fake” or made up curse. For example the new Battlestar Galatica use the word “frak” in place of curses…should I allow my future sons and daughters to watch episodes of the show? It’s obvious to me and others what the word replaces. Likewise what about words like “dang” and “crap”? what is acceptable and what isn’t? When is it acceptable? (ironically that last question is probably what got us to the point of hearing the “b” word 5 times in an hour).
DAR
· 1 year ago
I've been trying to find some references on black women hating the word bitch. I pissed a rasta girl off (she didn't say anything about it to me - she mentioned it to the Jamaican guy I'm dating) when I just used the word in a sentence. I didn't call her a bitch, just used the word. BTW, I'm white, so does that make it worse? I certainly didn't mean to hurt anyone. I know alot of deragatory words and don't use them, had no idea about this. Just found out about monkey not too long ago. I was talking about an animal to a black person and they got offended, do we need to use a different word for monkeys now? I'm not being flippant, I'm serious. I watched a documentary on PBS about Penn State's newspaper and it used "Queen of Spades" as a caption to black people playing spades. Now I know you probably shouldn't call a spade a spade. It's a minefield out here. Is there a good website that can inform me of any other words I should refrain from using?
JustNotMyStyle
· 1 year ago
It is interesting that I run across this topic. While I have been referred to as a "Typical Bitch" by a man who just weeks prior expressed his love to me both verbally and with actions. What was surprising was to hear him reach to the level of ignorance that will allow him to address me in that manner. It hurts and to be honest I am completely hurt and pissed about it. Basically, he was unable to commit fully and thus got caught in a lie or too. After expressing that we needed closure and I need to remove his belongs from my home, he resulted to those words. To give him some credit, he apologize. However the apology lack him taking full responsiblity for this actions and lack of respect for a woman and fellow African American and woman who have the same challenges and his mother, his sister and eventual his daughter. But, what that really showed me was his true character. Basically, we do hear women refer to friends in that manner in a joking way, but it is truly unacceptable and when you here it from the man you love and claims to love you it hits you where it hurts most, the heart. I forgive him for he is human, but I believe that his lack of character along with some other issues has made this union less of what I desire. I pray for him....
Tiffani
· 1 year ago
I am having a dilemma with my son’s school. Can someone please help me? My son was suspended for calling a female afraican american staff member a bitch (my son is 17), when I spoke to the associate prinipal he stated that it was a sexual and racist connacation. He stated that because a “bitch” is usualy refered to as a female it makes it a sexual connatation, and then he stated that if you call a female african american a bitch, its the same as calling her the ‘N’ word. I was dumbfounded as I never heard this. I told him I found that interesting, and I would do some reseach on it. He told me it is widely know. I called my sister and asked her (she is married to a african american male), and she told me that she has never heard of itand neither had my brother- in- law and the school is making it up. Anyone else heard of this? Please email me your opinions at tiffanishupe@yahoo.com. Thanks.
Natalia
· 7 months ago
I TOTALLY AGREE. LETS CHANGE TELEVISION FOR THE BETTER!!!!!
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A few weeks ago, I attended a bible study on "reverence" of God, His name and His Word. Without going into detail (it was a 5 hour study across 5 weeks), the opening of the study shocked me: Essentially, we are insensitive to the words spoken by others. As a Christian, up until that Bible study, If someone threw out any curse, even the obvious blaspheme, I didn't really sweat it. I was very complacent about what I let myself hear. That isn’t to say I’m going around telling everyone to stop cursing around me, but I take more notice of what is said, and I also take notice of the language used in the programs I watch. And like Kimberly, I stopped watching the shows that are just verbally abusive. But it seems it takes some of us a jarring or revealing experience(for Kimberly, the shows she speaks of above, for me, a bible study) to really take notice.
Here’s an interesting question: What about shows that use “fake” or made up curse. For example the new Battlestar Galatica use the word “frak” in place of curses…should I allow my future sons and daughters to watch episodes of the show? It’s obvious to me and others what the word replaces. Likewise what about words like “dang” and “crap”? what is acceptable and what isn’t? When is it acceptable? (ironically that last question is probably what got us to the point of hearing the “b” word 5 times in an hour).